Children’s birthday parties have always been… hotly debated. And mother Gina Wilder has taken the internet by storm with her hotly contested birthday party etiquette. Wilder shares what happens when one of his kids is invited to his birthday party. The video opens with “When I invite one of my children’s girlfriends to a birthday party.”
Wilder continues. “Inviting one kid gets us all. Don’t worry, we bring great gifts.” Her five children can be seen dancing on screen with her husband holding the baby. Wilder explains in the caption that her husband works a lot and is alone with her children most days. She also says she always checks her attendance for her family or asks her parents first.
Of course, the comments are full of opinions. But who am I if I don’t give mine first?
First, COVID… everyone You can stay home at this point. But the reality is that now that people are more comfortable (and vaccinated), we’re back in gatherings outside, and our kids are back in school with classmates, we already have multiple You are invited to a birthday party.
As a mother of three children, my oldest two are just under three years apart. They go to separate schools but my 4 year old knows most of his 7 year old brother’s friends and they love him. In their case, they do everything together, so if you invite one of them somewhere, both will come. And if they attend, my third child is a toddler, so I’ll be getting all three children.
We also certainly understand Wilder’s point of view, a mother who is most often at home with her children. Since her husband works six days a week, it’s safe to assume that she doesn’t have much free time to attend her children’s birthday parties. Is she supposed to never bring her kids to parties if she can’t or isn’t comfortable dropping them off?
But the comments brought up some good points.
Children can definitely benefit from individual experiences.
“God forbid, children are not allowed to have bonding time with their friends only in the afternoon when siblings are not around,” one user commented.
For siblings far apart in age, it would seem pretty random for a 4-year-old to attend a 12th birthday party. Also, I feel incredibly guilty if my eldest son doesn’t feel like he can have fun and hang out with his friends because he has to take care of his younger siblings. Building friendships outside of sibling relationships is also important for social development.
Each family’s financial situation is different.
Wilder claimed he would pay for the extra child if the party was held in the event space, but users still didn’t feel this was acceptable. “Imagine being a single parent on a tight budget. When this happens, I feel so embarrassed and upset,” the user wrote. Regardless, many people listen It puts the party host in an awkward position. Even if the party is held at home, the organizers are under pressure to provide extra food, gift bags, cakes and entertainment to children they do not intend to invite.
Some people felt that it was bad manners to invite them to a party.
“One of the things my mom always told me when I was growing up is don’t invite yourself anywhere. It’s embarrassing to invite the whole family,” he commented.
There were a few comments in the tone of “The more fun the better” and “Everyone come to my birthday party”, but the majority of commenters said they were on the team “Invited Kids Only”. You seem to have agreed to be Wilder replied to the comment, making it seem perfectly fine to attend a party that the whole family couldn’t attend.So… the moral of the story is… each unique?
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