A parent planning an ‘expensive birthday activity’ for their son who wants to avoid having ‘uninvited ‘extra’ children’ at the event said on a UK-based online forum We received a wave of support from a Mumsnet user.
In a post shared on Mumsnet’s Am I Being Unreasonable (AIBU) sub-forum, user samsmummyhere said the cost of the upcoming birthday event would be about £30 ($36) per child, followed by activities and meals. said it would take
My son was told he could invite 10 friends because he “really couldn’t afford more”.
However, according to users, many moms in their son’s circle of friends have taken “all their kids, even if they weren’t invited,” to parties in the past, as if “free childcare” was offered. I came.
The original poster read: “I can assure you that I don’t want this to happen at my son’s party…why should I pay £30 more for it? [moms] who does this?
“How can I politely but firmly say that the invitation is only for the specified friend and not for siblings or other add-ons?” asked the user.

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A 2017 survey of more than 5,000 parents by parenting website BabyCenter found that spending on a baby’s first birthday party ranges from under $50 to over $500.
More than half of the parents surveyed (61%) spent less than $200, 25% spent between $200 and $500, and 11% spent more than $500, the study said.
Several Mumsnet users showed understanding to the original poster and shared various suggestions on how to navigate the situation.
User Sirzy suggested notifying parents of invited children: For you. “
HavfrueDenizKisi agreed with Sirzy’s idea, stating:
Candleabra says: [in the invitation] -This means you are being irrational by excluding them-Since when were they invited anyway?! I didn’t think so. The child to be invited is the name written on the invitation. “
Littlebluebird123 asked: “Can parents pay for their child to do activities? You can write it on the invitation. If so, the cost will be £30 per child, payable on entry.'”
User Icanstillrecallourlastsummer agrees and explains:
Some users were more diplomatic, like notanothertakeaway, stating: We offer to pay for the invited children only. “
User gray12 said: