The Internet lashed out at a mother who changed the flavor of her daughter-in-law’s birthday cake to the flavor her daughter wanted.
Published on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, the father under the anonymous username u/Am535799 shared his story to get the opinion of the ‘AITA’ community.
The original poster (OP) tells his story by explaining that he has one daughter named “Olivia” from a previous relationship and a stepdaughter named “Britney” from his current marriage to his wife. started. He also said that Olivia and Britney are “complete opposites” of each other.
The OP explained that a dispute arose after Olivia decided to order a chocolate cake for her birthday, and how to call the bakery to place the order. and ordered vanilla instead.
The problem was that Olivia didn’t like vanilla and told his wife he was going to buy her favorite flavor since it was Olivia’s birthday. He said he “didn’t care” and should choose a “neutral” flavor instead. He stuck to his decision and ended the conversation.
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The OP said, “I was planning to go get a cake on the day of my birthday, but I was surprised to see my wife come back from the bakery to pick up the cake. It’s a chocolate cake, but it’s a vanilla cake with a small piece of chocolate on top.”
“My order was wrong and I was mad because I thought I was about to contact them, but my wife said there was no mistake and called the bakery the day before to ask for a cake to please both girls.” I said I made a change. She was stunned by her.I asked her why she lost it and why she did that.She said defensively,” he continued.
He called the bakery, told them what had happened, and had the cake replaced with a chocolate one.
He wrote that his wife did not want to participate in the celebration, which led to a big argument that she called him “controlling” and “selfish” about returning the cake. He argued that his daughter should be allowed to act “selfishly” on her birthday.
Newsweek I asked u/Am535799 for comment. Details of the incident could not be confirmed.
Newsweek The teen who “replaced” her family after learning she was the result of an affair, the teen who caused a scene at a family dinner about “women’s issues,” published several articles on conflicts within the family. Her family, including her pregnant sister-in-law, was evicted.
family favoritism
“In some families, there may be clear signs that a parent is prioritizing one child over another. and participate in one child’s competition and not another,” says Dr. Susan Newman. , social psychologist, author Long remembered the little things: make your kids feel special every daySaid Newsweek”However, most parents try to avoid being favored or perceived as favoritism by giving one of their children preferential treatment. ”
Newman also explained that some children do not understand the idea that other children in the family may need more attention and time from their parents.
Social psychologists say, “You like her more than I do,” and “Why do you always help my siblings?” , and even the tiniest things can trigger a pattern of being left out or ignored for siblings.
Redditor reaction
“[Not the a**hole] Your wife is a hole to go after you. The cake was basically vanilla to please Britney and add a touch of chocolate to her birthday girl,” she said, u/luvduvbunny, receiving over 25,000 upvotes top comments.
“[Not the a**hole] Your wife is projecting onto you because she’s showing interest. OP, signed up for this. You have registered your daughter for this. Welcome to Windup,” explained u/LetThemEatHay.
“[Not the a**hole]Your wife is an idiot. Everyone is entitled to special treatment on their birthday. Your wife is acting in a qualified manner. She tried to present you with a fait accompli but she couldn’t convince you to get her way.She is now trying to manipulate you emotionally,” she commented u/borisslovechild. doing.
U/flyingfred1027 exclaimed: [a] Mole mound. [Not the a**hole].”
