Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin, Jacobina Martin
Andrews Macmeal Syndication
Dear Miss Manor: I am an 11 year old male. Recently, I encountered a dilemma when trying to read the letters on girls’ and women’s shirts.
Often times the shirt print is on the chest and you may find me looking at her chest. It seems awkward to say, “Excuse me, I’m just reading your shirt,” especially to strangers. your thoughts?
Kind Reader: Miss Manners thinks you may already need reading glasses. You can read someone’s shirt at a glance.
If you’re accused of staring, you’ve been looking for too long. Indeed, when people wear shirts with more than just writing on them, they just blame themselves for the time other people spend reading it. And Miss Manners found it easy to forget what she was wearing.
However, if you’re looking for too long, you should be able to quickly refer back to what you were reading.
Dear Miss Manor: For my 78th birthday, one of my kids sent me a birthday cake. The cake had maybe 50% icing and a bit of sugary candy all over. I saw it in an ad and it was expensive.
I have been a baker for 50 years and rarely make ice cakes.
How was it? I didn’t know how to answer when asked, so I asked, “What did it taste like?” what should i say?
Kind Reader: Your child’s intention was to please you with a cake that was clearly extravagant and clearly well advertised.
Miss Manners should practice saying “It was so kind of you to think of me on my birthday” instead of “Why are you trying to kill me and embarrass me with sweet presents?” Recommended.
Dear Miss Manor: My husband of 58 years passed away last year. He was highly respected and loved by many who experienced his comfort and prayers in times of need.In fact, I received 150 condolence cards. He was really good to everyone in need.
What no one knows is that ever since we started living together, he has never put me first. bottom. His abuse came through the tone of his voice, not his actual words.
I can’t explain the relief when I no longer drive home to his car in the garage. How do I respond to the constant sympathy I receive from those who miss him more than I do? I’m not going to.
Kind Reader: “Thank you. He’ll miss you.”
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