In a Reddit post with nearly 15,000 likes, a husband describes a tense situation involving his wife at a child’s birthday party. In the post, her husband sets the background, explaining that her wife’s sister-in-law is her best friend and is married to her brother. “In short, she bends over backwards to accommodate all their demands, babysitters, errands, etc. I have them.”
He then describes a recent situation at his nephew’s birthday party hosted by his sister-in-law. When her 3-year-old daughter was being held by her wife for popping her balloon, “a boy (older than her, 5/6) sprinted at her and knocked her over.” did”.
“She’s clearly crying, so I pick her up. My wife is joking, ‘Oh, we’ll have to see where she goes’.” Well, apparently this other child’s mother was deaf and his wife told me (in front of one of her other best friends and a few other guests) to ‘shut your mouth’. I puffed out my cheeks and told him not to look sullen. ”
“I sent an email to a divorce lawyer about 15 minutes before this post, but I’ve finally hit my limit.”
Some users who responded to the post called the wife’s behavior “narcissistic behavior…”. It projects an image that you are a good person. ”
Forbes Health calls covert narcissism, also called vulnerable narcissism, “a ‘quieter, more subtle variation’ of narcissism.” This type of narcissist shares the same overarching characteristics of personality disorders. Others, and an excessive need for admiration and attention, but these traits are less obvious. ”
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They describe the signs of hidden narcissism as: Self-consciousness and social anxiety, defensiveness and anger, passive aggression, gaslighting. This is “a type of psychological manipulation that causes the victim to question their own perceptions, thoughts, and memories.”
When dealing with covert narcissists, David M. Reiss, a California-based practicing psychiatrist of more than 30 years, said in a Forbes article:
“When dealing with a narcissist or someone with emerging narcissistic traits, realize that there is not much you can reason with them at that point.You just have to set boundaries. When you’re in a state where you can only think about yourself,” Reese says.
Many Reddit users We were keen to stay up to date after the news dropped. “Please update when you tell her,” she said, with one user getting nearly 10,000 likes, while another said, “This needs an update.”
One person said, “Tell me when she files for divorce. If the server takes a picture and you can see it, I’ll pay you real money.” That’s what happens when you say Seriously, I could never be with someone who shows such a lack of respect for me.Pleasing others. ”
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