Even though his wife bought him a birthday cake, the man who made his own birthday cake was favored.
In a viral Reddit post, u/Whole_Ferret9774 was voted “not a********” and received 8,600 upvotes.
The 32-year-old talked about the homemade chocolate-covered cherry cake he’s always eaten for his birthday since he was a kid. caused an uproar and created a “cold” atmosphere.
Newsweek I reached out to a dating expert to find out how to fix the problem.
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A Redditor told another user that he has been married to his wife for a year. “I baked it with her, her parents made it, she made it herself. I never asked her or expected her.”
According to leadership development app BetterUp, “Family traditions are activities or patterns of behavior that reflect family values, interests, or beliefs. Once established, they are expected to be passed down from generation to generation. It represents your particular family unit and is like your own family culture.”
The app points out the importance of tradition, which can create a sense of comfort and security. Traditions can also give a family a sense of belonging.
Every year this Redditor said he eats cherry cake, but this year his wife said she didn’t want to bake it. Her favorite dessert was that she wanted to bake it herself.
However, the day before his birthday, OP finds two cheesecakes in the refrigerator with “Happy Birthday” written on them.
His wife explained that they were cakes for his party.
The OP explained that he gets cheesecake every month and reiterated that he likes cherry cake on special occasions.
“I thanked her and said it looked great, but I wanted a cake that she really liked, so I was going to make mine. A cake that everyone would love without having to bake a cake.” and yelled that we ruined her attempts to take things easy.”
The OP, who took to the internet on Oct. 30 to find out if he was wrong, said his wife was “cold and still acting cold at parties.”
“Normally, I move mountains and heavens to give her what she wants on her birthday and celebrate it the way she wants.
talk Newsweekdating expert Emily Robbs, “I don’t think it’s really about cake for her. It’s more likely she’s resentful about something else related to cake. It’s bothering the person.”
“The best way is for both partners to sit down face-to-face and discuss what’s going on. Use ‘I’ statements, not ‘you’ statements.” Not “You didn’t listen to my wishes”
“I suggest you ask her what’s really bothering her and see if she can dig a little deeper into her subconscious. Maybe she doesn’t want to make cake.” He must have felt guilty about his private life and it was just projected onto him. In any case, communication is the key.
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what do the comments say?
One comment with 14,000 upvotes said: The party is ruined by too much cake, which is plain silly. Is it because she’s also weirdly controlling other things, or just doesn’t like chocolate cherry cake? I don’t know.
“Seriously! I like cake but my boyfriend doesn’t. So what are you not making for his birthday?” wrote one user.
“She’s really weird and selfish. I don’t understand why the OP would be with someone who doesn’t do the bare minimum on their special day,” said another user.
Newsweek Asked u/Whole_Ferret9774 for comment. Details of the incident could not be confirmed.
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